Wednesday, 13 June 2018

When I was here before, couldn't look you in the eye



So anyone who has met me knows where this is going

I can't do it

I know it's a major flaw and the older I get the more I realise the value people place on eye contact. 
A lack of it:
  • it's untrustworthy
  • it makes people uncomfortable
  • you appear to be disinterested in the person you are talking to
  • you are rude
  • you are self obsessed
  • you are bored
I'm sure you could add a few of your own.

From the point of view (arf!) of someone who can't hold eye contact for more than a couple of seconds with friends or even family I have known for years it's hard to pin down why.

Of course it's a lack of self confidence, difficulty with being the centre of anyone's attention but it's not like I am trying to hide something, that I feel uncomfortable being with you.

Is it a habit that I have got into that like anything needs dedication and practice to overcome?
Should I ask you all to try and get me to maintain eye contact with you more when we meet?
Does anyone have any tips on overcoming this?
Should I just grow the fuck up?
Or as always am I overthinking things and should just use my shy moody and aloof image to my advantage?

If it has ever annoyed, upset or made you mad then I am truly sorry but does it bother you as much as it bothers me?

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